What Psychology Thinks of Love

What Psychology Thinks of Love

The psychological meaning of love is the "MUTUAL" reunion of these 3 conditions :

-- Chemical/Hormonal attraction

-- The will to make/see each other happy

-- Social familiarity with each other

As soon as one condition is missing; love conditions are no more satisfied... More interesting, in case it is not mutual, love condition is also broken, and now we have one of those 4 cases :

(1)-- Infatuation : one-way Social familiarity, the individual is just thinking too much and training his mind on that person until the subconscious creates an imaginary relationship, with love symptoms like fear of loss, rejection anxiety... etc

=> Cure : The cure to infatuation is to cut all means of contact and reminders of that person, in other words, re-train the mind to NOT think about it.

(2)-- Oneitis : The feeling that the "mating candidate" is exceptional and that there is no other person like it, which can also create fear of loss, or even worse, the automatic rejection of all the other "mating candidates"

=> Cure : This is tricky since it doesn't affect the habit part of the mind; but the "truth-accepting" part, so to convince the mind of the opposite, the information need to (1) Come from a higher authority (2) Get repeated over and over again (3) Leave an emotional imprint... [In 60% of the cases, the person itself telling it's not special many times does the trick]

(3)-- Enhancement : This is the hormonal side of single-sided feelings (not love of course) where a chemical flow of hormones caused by olfaction (pheromones) or other corporal mating selectors (kissing, looks...) can be misinterpreted by the individual as affection feelings (since they feel strong to the mind)

=> Cure : The quicker cure to this is actual intercourse with another person

So to conclude, psychology only considers love as the mutual feeling, the other one-sided affectations since they stop the individual from growth, are actually considered psychological disorders needing to be cured...

M.K. Ibn Hadj Kacem